tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2892715537269412542.post2266248895857096250..comments2023-09-24T02:25:34.856-05:00Comments on Drew Needs Rest: here we are againLindseyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15804940775952543209noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2892715537269412542.post-27200154053180197722010-07-12T19:55:51.682-05:002010-07-12T19:55:51.682-05:00Lindsey, I've been seeing a therapist for a fe...Lindsey, I've been seeing a therapist for a few months (only every other week or so now) and it's been helpful, but sometimes I wish I had picked someone who is more well-versed in the field of grief. I guess I didn't seek a grief counselor specifically because I know that no one issue can be dealt with in a vacuum, and I felt like she was very well-rounded and could help me with any possible relationship upsets or parenting issues down the road. My biggest issue is that I've been fighting the desire to turn inward, and I need help not doing that--mostly because I value my marriage and I know doing that can hurt a marriage. I took a lot of psychology/sociology classes in college (even a class called "Death And Dying," if you can believe it), but it's always good to have an outside person tell you that you're okay, all those crazy thoughts are okay, and you're going to make it through it. This is my first real go at seeing a therapist and I think it has made a difference for me, so I definitely recommend trying it out!Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03555672583756632794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2892715537269412542.post-40392128604487293702010-07-12T12:04:36.546-05:002010-07-12T12:04:36.546-05:00The ups and downs sound like grief to me. At least...The ups and downs sound like grief to me. At least that's how grief is for me after losing my Drew.<br /><br />Our grief counseling has been useful for me and my husband (we see the same therapist separately). It helps keep me able to function on a day to day basis. I would definitely consider it once the insurance kicks in. Also keep in mind that you need to find a therapist that is the right fit, so you may need to shop around.Kairoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13787694446047460695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2892715537269412542.post-18278811900926238722010-07-11T23:38:40.244-05:002010-07-11T23:38:40.244-05:00Hi. If you are seriously considering it, a therapi...Hi. If you are seriously considering it, a therapist can be a really good thing. You may not discover anything new, but they can give you many exercises that will help you deal with all the emotions. Just having an outside party listen is also very helpful. Here's hoping tomorrow is a better day.Brooke Moreheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09633885813146364588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2892715537269412542.post-37061859281058919592010-07-11T22:33:13.046-05:002010-07-11T22:33:13.046-05:00I would say you're perfectly normal given the ...I would say you're perfectly normal given the traumatic circumstances life has dealt you & as a social worker I truly believe that it can't hurt any of us to pursue a little therapy now & then. Plus if you try it & feel you're not benefiting then you can always stop. I would definitely try to find someone who has dealt with or is sensitive to the issues of infant loss, grief, and/or infertility as you may be able to establish better rapport with them. <br />Thinking of you; praying you feel some peace & comfort tonight. I came across this song the other day & love it...I played it multiple times tonight...hope it blesses you, <br />http://www.youtube.com/watch#!v=w4gAoozKrMg&feature=related<br />Also don't know if you've read I Will Carry You by Angie Smith, but it's a great book...I just started it last night & am already half way through...don't get me wrong I've cried a lot reading it, but I also feel it's helping me to deal with some of my grief in a healthy way.rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06480554666969330506noreply@blogger.com